While this kind of winsome approach seems to be positive towards children and vaguely Christian, it is not biblical. God does not reward having children always, and great heartache, suffering, and problems are likely to result from trusting God’s will in this matter. Thinking children are a debatable, human choice is a modern fantasy, making children created in the image of God just like any other common, earthly object: Should I have 3 TVs in my house or 4? Should I have 1 pet turtle or none? That kind of thinking treats children, a divine gift, like any other optional, disposable object.
What does God’s Word say? Children are an intrinsic part of marriage, and bearing and raising them are a service to God–not a selfish reaping of future benefits for oneself. Children are a divine duty that God chooses–not sinful man, no matter how much the word “choice” is repeated. It is not a coincidence that the abortion crowd also worships the same word. Pretending barren women have a choice is also rather insulting. “Am I in the place of God, who has withheld from you the fruit of the womb?” (Gen. 30:2).
Rather, children are connected to our most basic biological impulses and marriage, by God’s own Word. Childbearing is a service to God. It is not like choosing 1, 2, or 3 scoops of ice cream. “So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander” (1 Tim. 5:14). God gives children, not our sinful thoughts. We can only say “no” to life, not “yes” by creating! This is not a real choice. Following God’s biological vocation and trusting His will in the blessings of children, even when it is against our choices, will not be fully rewarded here on earth, but it will in heaven by our Father who is holy. But we do have the choice to follow God and trust His will, who gives no child apart from His consent and decision. “Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control” (1 Tim. 2:15). –ed.